I want to start by saying that Iām sorry.
I know Iāve said it probably a million times but I feel like I need to keep apologizing. I keep saying it in the hopes that youāll understand all the things Iām apologizing for. Iām sorry. Iām sorry that all the memories we made are now tainted with sadness. Iām sorry that I didnāt love you the way you deserved. Iām sorry that I couldnāt really explain to you why we had to end. Iām sorry that I waited so long to tell you when I already knew it was over. Iām sorry I hurt you. Iām sorry I gave up on us. Iām sorry I broke your heart. Iām sorry that thereāll never be an us again.
Iām just so incredibly sorry.
You might not believe me, you probably wonāt believe me, but breaking up with you was the hardest thing Iāve ever had to do. It may have hurt me as much as it hurt you. I can hear someone in the audience of those whoāve had their hearts broken shout, āBullshit!ā I hear you but hear me, itās never easy hurting someone you love and I do, I love you. You didnāt ask and I didnāt tell you but hereās the truth: I love you.
I wanted to be a forever kind of girl. I wanted to be a girl who could promise you forever and mean it. I thought Iād changed but I discovered that I hadnāt. Iām still as afraid of commitments and forevers as I was before.
You and I just werenāt meant to be in the end and that makes me sad because I wanted us to work out more than Iāve ever wanted anything. You donāt see this now and you may not see it next week, or next month or next year but one day youāll see that you deserve so much better than me and what I could give you.
You deserve someone who can give you the love I couldnāt.
Someone who could understand you better than I ever did. Someone who isnāt drowning in their own demons.
So Iām sorry for breaking your heart. I hope I havenāt made you afraid to give your heart again. I hope youāre not afraid to fall in love again. I hope that one day you find someone who makes you happy.
And I hope that one day youāll forgive me instead of just telling me not to apologize.
Breaking someoneās heart is never going to be easy. It might even feel worse than being the one who got dumped, because on top of that loss, you feel guilty as hell.
Iāve had my heartbroken before and I would never wish that kind of painĀ on my worst enemy. Not only is it painful, but itās humiliating, shocking and down right cruel. It feels like they did it on purpose, just to make you suffer. But in hindsight, they were just doing whatĀ was right for them at the time.
Not only have I been heartbroken, but IĀ also have had the terrible deed of unfortunately breaking someone elseās heart. And my god, was it heart-wrenching.
To see that I made someone I care about break.
I made him hurt. I made him cry. I made his heart ache. AndĀ I curse myself for it. I feel like I am a terrible human being.I feel like I donāt deserve anything good in life, and that karma will come back for me.I am sorry.
No matter how much it hurts me,I need to do the right thing for myself even if it breaks another personās heart.
I donāt like to disappoint people. I donāt like to hurt people. And I wouldnāt ever want to make someone who I truly care about hurt like I have hurt before. But, in some circumstances you have to say goodbye. And I have to watch them suffer- because of what I am saying to them.
And I have to forgive myself for this.
Imagine that someone in this world loves you more than any song can song, and any phrase can express.Ā You are the first thing on his mind every morning, and the last thing on his mind every night. He worships you.Ā He canāt go more than ten minutes wondering what you are doing, and if you are happy.Ā Your happiness and success are his only goals in life.
You are literally his drug.Ā He doesnāt need narcotics or booze because you are his high.Ā Everything you are, is everything he wants and the only thing he needs.Ā He would take a bullet for you.Ā He would kill someone for you.Ā His love is that real.
And he tells you all the time, āI love you so much.āĀ And you can feel it in his presence. In the way that he has made himself a better person, for you.
It is a fairytale.Ā Except that it isnāt.
The only problem is you donāt love him back.Ā Maybe you did at one time and have fallen out of love.Ā Maybe you never loved him at all.Ā Maybe you do love him, but not enough to save you. How do you live with yourself, knowing that you have literally crushed the soul of another? How do you sleep knowing that you may have scarred him for life? Knowing that he may never be able to love someone else, because of you.
The answer is simple: time and conscious thought.Ā Time doesnāt completely heal all wounds, but it can help.Ā At first it will seem like a selfish actā¦you are the villain.Ā But in time you will understand that your happiness and your choices are just that, yours.Ā Do your choices affect others? Absolutely.Ā But can continue to blame yourself for the way other people choose to feel? Absolutely not. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to love whomever the hell you please. You are responsible for you, and thatās it.
Stop beating yourself up about it.Ā Stop pitying him.Ā He will get over it someday, on his own accord, when he is damn well ready.Ā When he starts to take responsibility for his own happiness, and his own choices, he will be free from you. And he will feel stronger, and more able because of it.
Maybe he didnāt deserve for you to break his heart.Ā But he certainly didnāt deserve your guilted-love either.Ā Maybe he will find someone else, maybe he will never love again.Ā Either way, that isnāt your concern.Ā Take pride in the fact that you are brave enough to know what you want, and make the hard decisions that need to be made.
You arenāt a bad person because you broke someoneās heart.Ā You arenāt a villain for not returning someone elseās love.Ā Youāre human.Ā Someone may break your heart someday and then maybe youāll understand both sides of the coin.Ā But until then, remind yourself that no matter how much he loved you; you loved yourself a little more.
Because eventually you will find someone who you love, just as much as he loved you. And if youāre lucky, that person will love you too.
Jiayou Sam!
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